7 KEY Tips to Stop Feeling Inadequate TODAY


Does any of this sound familiar?

Or do you know someone like this?

This is not just one woman…this is so many, many women that I know.

I know a woman who is amazing.

She is a master leader in her business.

She’s really successful everywhere.

She is holds volunteer leadership positions.

She is an amazingly loving, human, friend, and family member.

She takes care of everyone around her.

She is an absolute joy and a delight in the world.

And the kids today would call her a serious baller.

(Baller: adjective INFORMAL•US extremely good or impressive; excellent.)

And…deep inside she struggles with feeling she is inadequate despite all her doing, giving, providing and contributes.

Deep inside she feels like she’s not enough in some ways.

Because she has this quiet background voice in her mind telling her she is inadequate, she has an underlying drive to endlessly do things to prove that she isn’t.

This is why she feels compelled to do, do, do, give, give, give, contribute, contribute, contribute.

She feels instinctively compelled to do all the things and give all the things and solve everyone’s problems to prove she is adequate.

And so, she fills her schedule to the brim with so many things to do, to fix, to solve, to contribute.

Her mind is always comparing herself with herself and thinking she should be better, know better, be more perfect…

All this endless proving and endless doing has caused so many negative voices in her head that it’s really deafening a good chunk of the time.

And all these background negative voices have led to her overeat to cope with the screaming feelings of inadequacy and she’s gained weight.

She loses herself periodically in taking care of others so much so that she has lost touch with who she is or what she wants.

She struggles to ask for help thinking she should be able to do it all or has to be the strong one.

She feels resentful at times because she hasn’t gotten support in some areas and may not realize she hasn’t learned to really ask for and really receive support.

She uses serving others and contributing to others as a way avoid feeling the inadequacy that lurks inside her.

Can you relate to any of this?

Which parts?

Where do you see it in your life?

The thing about this story, is that it’s not just one person…it’s so many people..including me…

I know so many women who struggle with this same tornado in their mind.

I know some men who do too.

I want to be clear…there is nothing wrong with contributing and wanting to give to others. I full-heartedly love serving and the idea of serving…and…

The problem here with this scenario is that she is doing all of this to fill a hole in her heart that is caused because she subconsciously and consciously at times tells herself that she is inadequate.

The problem is that she is motivated to do all the things and fill her time because of this.

So, she does and gives and contributes to try to fill the hole inside, but the hole never gets quite filled. Ever.

The problem is that her mind keeps telling her that something is wrong with her.

And there’s actually nothing wrong.

Yep, it’s true, nothing is actually wrong with her…even though her brain wants to tell her that there is. This is the problem; she hasn’t learned to not believe everything she hears inside her own head.

She hasn’t learned how to see that she really is innately love-able, infinite, and divine.

She hasn’t learned the tools to understand that when humans feel inadequate, it’s part of how the human brain works and most humans have some flavor of it.

WHAT TO DO INSTEAD OF LISTENING TO THE HUMAN INSTINCT VOICES OF INADEQUACY IN YOUR HEAD: 7 KEY TIPS

What helps to solve the challenge of feeling inadequate or not enough is:

FIRST:  RECOGNIZE THE VOICES OF INADEQUACY
It can sound like this (and many other things) in our minds:

 “Oh, no, I didn’t do that right.” 

“Oh my gosh, I did it wrong, there’s only one right way to do it, and I didn’t do it right.”

“Why do I do that, why can’t I get it right?”

“Why do I never learn?”

“This has to be perfect or better.”

“I should be able to solve this or figure this out!”

“This is not ____________ enough.”

“I can’t make a mistake.”
“I shouldn’t/should have done____”

Just recognize that these little thoughts creep in so quickly and that they are actually pretty normal. 

SECOND:  THE HUMAN BRAIN IS WIRED TO ALWAYS WATCH FOR DANGER SO REMIND YOURSELF NOTHING HAS ACTUALLY GONE WRONG…AKA: YOU’RE NOT GONNA DIE.

When we recognize a negative thought like these above, remind yourself nothing actually has gone wrong. 

Your brain may want to argue with you here…but when we automatically believe something has gone wrong, we often cause ourselves stress which disconnects us from the problem-solving pre-frontal cortex part of our brain.

THIRD:WHAT YOU FOCUS ON, YOU WILL FIND, SEE, AND CREATE

Realize that as whatever thought we focus on, including thoughts of inadequacy, our brains actually will go and seek more evidence of why we are inadequate. 

Our brain has a self-fulfilling prophecy wiring to it…whatever you focus on, you will see. Whatever you focus on, you will collect evidence for that.

FOURTH: REDIRECT YOUR THOUGHTS WITH BETTER QUESTIONS

Ask yourself the opposite of what your brain wants to instinctively say to you. 

When the inadequacy thoughts creep in, ask a yourself a different question like:

How can I have curiosity or compassion for myself right now?

What if nothing has actually gone wrong?

What if there really isn’t only one right way?

How is this actually the perfect learning opportunity for me?

What can I learn from this?

How can understand that I don’t need to make this mean something about me, my capability, my worth?

FIFTH: TAKE THINGS OFF YOUR TO-DO LIST PERMANENTLY…NOT JUST FOR A DAY

Take things off your to-do list and make some quiet time for you to think, to reflect, to journal, to meditate, to exercise, and  to take care of you.

Don’t just fill your time.

Remove things from your list.

Make time for quiet, think time.

Actually schedule it in your calendar.

Our society worships the act of being busy these days and we think we have to do it all…we don’t. The end.

YOU DON’T HAVE TO DO IT ALL.

YOU ARE ENOUGH PERIOD.

You can AND you are capable of doing so many things and whatever you want…but when we spread ourselves thin, no one gets the best of us especially us. (See Essentialism by Greg McKeown.)

SIXTH: PRIORITIZE YOU

Take things that really don’t support you being your first priority off your to-do list.

Don’t turn to food to fill the hole.

Give yourself good nourishing food.

Take the time to plan it.

Take the time to plan in taking a walk or moving your body in a loving way.

Make time to do something your soul has been longing for.

SEVENTH: PRACTICE CHOOSING TO BELIEVE SOMETHING NEW

DON’T chant a mantra like I’m enough, I’m enough, I’m adequate, I’m adequate.

IT DOESN’T WORK.

The reason this doesn’t work is that our brain doesn’t buy it.
Our brain usually doesn’t instinctively believe this.

It will come up with counter arguments when we present it like this.

So, to work with how the human brain works, I actually recommend other options for thoughts to choose to believe:

I am me and that’s totally OK.

I choose to allow myself to be human and I’m choosing to learn to love all parts of myself.

I am learning to love all parts of myself and all parts of my experience on this planet.

I am learning to love me no matter what.

I am learning that I am love-able because it’s a feeling I get to choose to feel on purpose.

I love me even when I don’t like the things I’m doing.

I want you to say those to yourself and just notice what your brain may say. 

It’s totally fine if your brain wants to argue.

But ask yourself, if I believed these things here at the end…

What could be possible?

What would I choose to fill my life with?

What would I eliminate?

How would I prioritize?

How would I schedule time in to take care of me?

What could be possible when I really take care of me and honor me?

I leave you with these questions.

I’d love to hear your answers.

Have a wonderful weekend.

Love,

Candy

p.s. I can help you feeling inadequate TODAY. So, if you’re ready for that, CLICK HERE TO SCHEDULE A FREE CALL WITH ME TODAY.

In just this first call I will help you start learning the step-by-step process to stop feeling inadequate so you can stop emotional overeating to fill the emotional hole. It will be so yummy. I promise.

THE POWER OF REALLY LEARNING TO TRUST YOURSELF…


These last two weeks since my mastermind coach training, I’ve been applying new tools that have transformed my mind…

The biggest transformation I’ve been experiencing is how to learn to REALLY trust myself by believing that I can figure out the answers and by asking myself great questions about things that seem hard…Then understanding that I truly have the ability to find solutions to everything I want to.

I invite you to think about on a scale of 1-10, (10 being the highest amount of self-trust) how much do you really trust yourself to make decisions, stick to them and know that you can figure it out?

If you were to have asked me this question about a month ago, I would have said about a 7. 

After this experience in my new coach training, I’d say a 12+. 

It’s so EXCITING to learn this.

If you were to have asked me about 6-7 years ago, I would have said maybe a 2-3. 

I didn’t understand so much of what was going on in my brain and that compelled me to react to stress, overwhelm by overeating and having severe anxiety and depression. 

It wasn’t fun.

But what is so much fun is being on the other side now…understanding how my brain works and how I can take care of it in ways that created:

1. Me losing 65 lbs and keeping it off and completely knowing that I’ll never gain the weight back because that’s not who I am any more.

2. Creating freedom from any mind drama or shame around food.

3. Have peace around my body and love it the way it is, no matter what.

4. Created create an amazing relationship with my best friend and hubby-a relationship where we NEVER fight-our instincts collide, but we never fight because we use tools to honor the experience of the other person and have made commitments to give each other the benefit of the doubt.

5. Created a Life Coaching Coaching Practice of AMAZING clients who I feel like they are sent from God and I’m so blessed we get to be in this part of our journey’s on the planet together.

And…this is just the beginning.

This is all possible because I’ve learned even more about my brain and learned to access it’s most amazing capacities in new ways…and how it’s been there actually all my life…

This is what is happening for my clients…it’s so exciting to witness and such an honor.

I have learned that our brains have opposition in their wiring and it’s supposed to be this way…and the sooner we learn the tools to make peace with this, the more peace and joy is possible.

We have parts of our brain that are wired only for survival…and most of us are run by these parts of our brains because they are the default.

We need this part of the brain to survive but the challenge is that this part of our brain only gives us simple thought commands based on survival…not THRIVAL…I made that up.

AND…

We have amazing parts of our brain, our pre-frontal cortex that is wired for rational thought, choice, empowerment, and PROBLEM SOLVING.

Our pre-frontal cortex is the most amazing problem solving machine on the planet.

It’s such a gift and a gift to be cherished and cared for immensely.

The magic is that as we learn to understand our survival wiring, not make it wrong, make peace with it, we connect with more facility to that amazing pre-frontal cortex and when we learn to ask ourselves empowering questions (and other tools), our pre-frontal cortex comes up with all the most amazingly, inspired answers…it truly feels miraculous.

This is what is possible for everyone.

There is so much peace, joy, ecstasy and EMPOWERMENT that is possible for all of us as we learn these tools.

Everyone has this possibility and capability.

And when we learn to understand our brain and KNOW that we can figure anything out…

OH BOY, THAT IS JUST THE BEGINNING OF WHAT IS POSSIBLE FOR YOU…and me and everyone.

I invite you to ponder this question today…

If I knew I could figure out how to trust myself and handle whatever happens in life and I knew that I could figure anything out, what would be possible?

What would you choose? 

How would you choose?

HOW WOULD THIS AFFECT YOUR WEIGHT-LOSS PROCESS AND CHOICES?

I’d love to know.

REPLY TO THIS EMAIL AND LET ME KNOW. 

Have a fantastic 3 day weekend.

Love,
Candy
The Stop Emotional Overeating Coach 
for Women Over 40


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One Decision At a Time To Be ALL In For You Creates Your Weight Loss Success

Happy Friday my friend.

Read to the end….this is longer…AND GOOOOOD.

As many of you know, I went to an exclusive master coach training last weekend in Chicago.

I want to share the back story because my world has transform and I know it can help transform your world.

I had originally applied for it back in April & didn’t get in. 

They offered us the option of having them keep the deposit to receive priority consideration for the next one or get our money back. I chose to have them keep the deposit because I had decided to be completely committed to getting to this training.

I chose to look at that as an opportunity to learn and I didn’t pout that I didn’t get it.

Instead I asked myself, what do I need to do to so they will have me in the group.

Then I got to work…not perfectly, pretty messily in fact, but I got to work persistently and consistently.

I made decisions that I was going to figure out how to grow and get accepted to this program.

Then I worked to implement what I was studying from this master coach’s entry level training that I had been taking. 

But I stumbled a bit here…and did it very imperfectly…my brain got stuck in some spin cycles, questioning myself, some self-doubt, some shame, questioning and a bit of blaming on things outside of me….(sound familiar in your weight-loss process)…aren’t our brains amazing and predictable!

I learned that I needed to evaluate what I was doing so that I could see my areas of growth and figure out how to continue to grow…

I worked to evaluate how I was doing but stumbled to evaluate how I was doing…meaning, I didn’t do it often…no, my brain instinctively wanted to hide from looking at my “mistakes” (sound familiar in your weight-loss journey?) 

This is a natural human instinct to not want to evaluate because: 

A-It’s not a part of our routine and don’t realize it’s an option or how valuable it is

B-Our brain is afraid to evaluate because if it sees we made a mistake or “did something wrong” it means something’s wrong with us or it instinctively thinks there is a right way to do it or a wrong way or only one way…what if you couldn’t get it wrong…all you had to do was make one decision at a time?

I kept taking IMPERFECT ACTION.

Then, about 2 weeks before the coach training started on 8/14/19 in Chicago, I received and email saying a spot had opened up and if I wanted it, I needed to commit in 24 hours to do the following: 

*Get to Chicago for the 3 day training.
*Arrange & pay for the hotel
*Arrange & pay for the flight
*Read a book called Essentialism By Greg McKeown (YES GO READ IT NOW)
*Commit to move my schedule around to be on weekly calls for 6 months, all dressed up, professionally presented
*Oh, and pay 9K….in 24 hours

I had already decided that this is what I wanted.

I had already committed to figure out how to up level to be an better Life Coach. I’m committed to continue to grow into the next best version of myself…it’s so fun, it’s so delicious to grow-it’s not easy, but I love it and I’m committed to it. 

AND I was going to do whatever it took to figure out how to create that result for myself.

So when I got the email, I just said, yep, I’m in. I’ll handle it.

I didn’t think much of this, I was just super excited.

But when I got to the reception the first night, this million++ dollar master coach, my new coach, that I had never met in person came up to me and said, “Candy, you’re a such a bad a**!” 


I was astonished and not sure why she said that.

I can’t remember what I said exactly but it was something like, “Thank you. Why?”

She said, because I had handled all that stuff in 24 hours…and it would affect the experience for everyone…???

Wow. I just wanted to figure out how to be the next, best version of myself as a coach…so I was going to be all in…THE END….

I had no idea that my decision to better myself would ripple like that…

But this is what happens when we decide to better ourselves from a place of decision, (not indecision) commitment and self-love.

It ripples…I knew this principle, but had no idea I would have that kind of ripple…

On the opposite side of things…it’s good to ask ourselves:

How often do we not go ALL IN and commit to our growth in our weight-loss journey (which turns out to be an emotional & physical cleansing and healing journey) 

….because we are afraid of making a mistake  

….or we are afraid of doing it wrong 

….or we are afraid of rocking the boat in others’ lives  

….or because we just plain doubt that we can do it? 

….or we’ve subconsciously chosen to make our lives so busy that we won’t or don’t take an honest look at it?

When we don’t decide to go all in for our growth, we stay stuck in indecisionville and WE NEVER GROW…we stay stuck.

If we want to grow in our emotional and physical weight-loss journey (or any journey) we have to decide to commit to ourselves period.

Sometimes it’s scary because:

….we haven’t put ourselves first in a long time (or ever).

…or we haven’t realized we have been keeping ourselves so busy to subconsciously avoid taking a look at it, facing it and making a decision to just commit to figure it out

…but DO NOT let FEAR be the reason you don’t step up for yourself. 

Fear is natural, but don’t get stuck there. 

Push through it and JUST DO IT GOL DARN IT. 

You will thank yourself I promise.

And you HAVE NO IDEA how you deciding to commit to yourself to figure out how to lose weight and keep it off for good will ripple on ALL those around you and some not around you yet…

IT WILL RIPPLE…it can’t help but ripple in amazing ways.

To finish up the story, we were given a REALLY BIG SCARY goal last weekend and in order to stay in the program, we had to accomplish it in 30 days. She used to give the group 6 months to get it accomplished.

My amazing coach helped me gain the tools to believe that I could figure out how to do it…this is what I do for my clients too…

And I was able to do it in 4 days. HOLY MOLEY.

BAM…I’m so proud of myself and I want you to know that I completely believe that this kind of growth is possible for EVERYONE.

I AM A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT PERSON JUST ONE WEEK LATER…

I am now a person who knows she can do anything (and a lot faster sometimes than I ever thought possible!

FROM MAKING ONE DECISION TO COMMIT TO GO ALL IN ON MYSELF NOW and… 

TO CONTINUE TO LEARN AND NOT PUT MY GROWTH OFF….

This is what is possible FOR ALL OF US.

NO MORE EXCUSES. BE DONE WITH THEM. BE ALL IN FOR YOURSELF.

Have a wonderful weekend.

Love, 
Candy

The Stop Emotional Overeating Coach 

for Women Over 40


p.s. If you are ready to make the decision to commit to go all in on yourself to Stop Emotional Overeating and Lose Weight for Good…CLICK HERE to schedule a free consult call with me tod

Losing Weight is a Series of Decisions…and you are totally capable of making them!




Everything we do in life is essentially a series of decisions.

We decide what time to get up.

We decide what to do or not do right after we get up.

We decide to go to work.

We decide how to speak to our family and co-workers.

We decide to eat breakfast.

So many of our decisions however, are on auto-pilot.

We made decisions about so many things so long ago and they became habits that we never think to evaluate.

Losing weight after 40 is really about a series of decisions.

I am in a mastermind coach training this week with an AMAZING coach teacher, Stacey Boehman.

Today she shared with us that the faster we can make decisions and implement, the faster we can see if they worked and self-correct.

This applies to our journey with weight-loss too.

We have so many thoughts that are on auto-pilot for us around food that were the result of decisions we made many years ago and sometimes because of decisions others made.

Notwithstanding who made the decisions, the power lies within us to make our decisions today.

When we stay in the decision making processes/decision making habits from the past, we will never change.

We have to learn to break the auto-pilot decision making process.

The challenge for most people when it comes to weight-loss is that when we are making decisions, (the decision to stop snacking, the decision to limit/eliminate sugar and flour), we get stuck in indecision because our brain is so wired to repeat the old decision making processes.

We also get stuck in arguing from a victim-mentality place that sounds a lot like: but, I don’t want to stop eating that or I can’t see myself not eating sugar and flour or my family revolves around food and we just are spontaneous around food…

These are all just excuses of that old auto-pilot part of our brain that wants to keep you unwell and addicted to the decision making habits and foods that do not support your body to be healthy.

I invite you to look at how you make decisions around food.

Are they from an empowered, I’m going to take care of myself and love myself viewpoint?

Or are they coming from an indulgent, whiny, complaining, auto-pilot, emotionally childhood place?

No shame here…just notice. 

We all revert to this whiny, auto-pilot, emotional childhood part of our brain…

But you know what…that part of our brain only keeps us gaining weight and unhealthy.

So how do you make decisions around weight-loss.

YOU JUST DECIDE.

YOU JUST DECIDE to figure out how to love you, have your back and figure out how to stop eating the things that don’t serve your body for happiness and true health.

GEEZE, Candy, sure, how can you say, YOU JUST DECIDE???  How do you even do that?

Step 1: Notice kindly the whiny excuses or how you are blaming outside people or things for your decisions around food.

Step 2: Don’t beat yourself up about them, but own them. Say to yourself, “The good news is, that the ability to change really is in my power.” 

Step 3: Then ask yourself, why haven’t you made the decision to really stand up for yourself, have your own back and love yourself to take care of you and your body.

Step 4: Notice any more excuses compassionately.

Step 5: Forgive yourself for them and re-commit to believe it’s possible to figure how to love yourself, stop emotionally overeating, fill your life with other things you’d rather be doing that numbing and distracting yourself with food.

Step 6: Each day: plan your food, stick to your plan, get 7-9 hours of sleep, drink 1/2 your body weight in water, eat only when you are hungry and stop when you are about 80% satisfied. Then reflect at the end of the day how you were victorious with these steps. Take baby steps and celebrate them.

The faster you make the decision to stop eating the things your body doesn’t really need and the faster you take these steps and evaluate how the day went doing it (collecting the data) the faster you will learn and the faster you will lose weight.

My clients who go into victim mentality or argue or complain or whine against these basic steps and want to blame their decisions on something outside them, lose weight more slowly.

Those who make the decision and go all in on themselves, lose a lot more weight a lot more quickly.

Them’s the facts m’am.

If you’d like more help making amazing decisions that will help you get to your goal of losing weight for good, feeling like yourself again and even feeling better than you thought you could, it’s time to set up a time for your free consult call. 


CLICK THE BUTTON HERE TO SCHEDULE: 


I got you.

Love & Hugs,

Candy



CANDY WRIGHT BURGOYNE, M.A.
Emotional Overeating & Healing Expert
CERTIFIED LIFE-COACH, WEIGHT-LOSS COACH, 
RELATIONSHIP 
Candy Wright Coaching






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Celebration Time, C’mon!

Hi y’all…

This week, it’s time for some ce-le-bra-tin’!

I got to go to Texas to visit my new step grand baby! Celebration!

(My hubby John and the little lady! Aren’t they adorbs?)



Then we flew to Arizona to celebrate my mom and dad’s 50th anniversary! Celebration!

Look how cute they are!!



All my siblings (there are 8 of us) and most of the 32 grand kids will be in attendance. We haven’t all been in the same place at one time since 2012. Celebration!

You know why we need to celebrate?

Because it feels good. Really, do we need another reason?

It’s a way to honor all the time, work, blood sweat & tears that we put in to things.

From a brain perspective, and you know I always throw that in there, when we celebrate things, especially when we wake up our brain to the new things we have accomplished or done, it helps the brain remember that that thing was important…and to remember it, store it, and repeat it again in the future.

But how often do you notice that your beautiful amazing brain wants to gravitate to, dwell on, perseverate on, or just plain get stuck on the things you are not doing instead?

How often do you notice your brain doing that instead of looking at all you have done and accomplished?

If your brain is like mine, which I’m guessing most of yours are, it naturally gravitates to thinking about all I haven’t accomplished yet.

It sneaks up on me all the time and what happens is that I start to feel down on myself and I start to not be able to see all that I have done.

When our brains gravitate to only seeing what we haven’t done, it cuts off some of the communication to the thinking part of our brain that can choose to see all we have done and therefore help us focus more on the positive…which helps us create more positive in our lives.

How often in your journey with weight-loss, or improving relationships, or improving your emotional life have you gotten stuck in seeing all that you haven’t yet done?

Ask yourself this question.

It’s very enlightening. 

Mine happens weekly, OK, daily, let’s be honest, Candy. And when I’m not careful, it can get the better of me and cause me to start to get down on myself.

No bueno.

So, that’s why I’m making a case for celebrations.

The more we are kind and generous with ourselves, by noting our accomplishments that we’d like to celebrate, the more we can calm our brains down from getting stuck in this loop of only seeing how “short we are falling” and then actually see all that we have done.

My clients find themselves here often and it’s not a surprise…because they are human and this is what human brains do (and I do it too).

Their brains gravitate to looking at all they haven’t done yet or how not yet perfect they are and it just causes them to stall or beat themselves up, which is a waste of energy.

Nothing has gone wrong when this happens and we can catch it.

I propose that if you find yourself stuck, perseverating, or gravitating to only see what you have not yet done, take out a piece of paper and start writing down all the things this week that you did do that you could give yourself a pat on the back for. Do it, I’m serious…

Be generous. 

Please be generous and kind with yourself.

This is a huge key.

Watch what can happen when you start looking at all you have done, watch how it improves your emotional state.

It is literally re-focusing your thoughts on the positive and therefore it is creating a new positive, emotional state.

I want to see your lists. 

Send them to me.

Here is the list of my celebrations I wrote down today.
–I want to see yours, seriously:


**I felt some big stress a couple of times while in the store over the past 2 days getting ready for the 50th celebration and I didn’t lose my cool, I just asked for what I needed or went to go find what I needed by myself to calm down.

**I got this post done on my vacation and took care of my brain by going to a quiet room to do it. (I really wanted to stay out and sit in the same room with my mom and hubby, while they were quietly working, but I know that my brain cannot concentrate as well when I’m in the same room with loved ones.

**I made some new friends in Texas this week that can help me with a new part of my business.

**I GOT ACCEPTED INTO AN EXCLUSIVE MASTER COACH TRAINING THAT I START NEXT WEDNESDAY IN CHICAGO!

**I slowed down and watched a killer Texas sunset w/ my sweetie and got some great shots!




**I initiated games with my nieces and nephews who were getting bored and we had a great time.

**I MET MY NEW STEP-GRAND-DAUGHTER! CUTIE PIE.

**I felt extreme love for someone I used to struggle with.

**I GET TO CELEBRATE MOM AND DAD’S 50TH WITH ALL MY SIBLINGS.

**I made a cool thing for their anniversary party.

**I worked out at the gym 5 times already this week and will go tomorrow too.

**I planned food for most of my days while traveling.

**I didn’t beat myself up when I ate too much Texas brisket.

**I waited a little longer to eat the next day after eating too much brisket.

**I chose to see the celebrations after noticing I was forgetting.

**I GOT TO GO TO MY NEPHEW’S BIRTHDAY DINNER LAST NIGHT!

The fun thing was that when I started listing them all down, more and more came to mind…when we take time to recognize and celebrate the small wins, our brains go to work to create more of them…so this is my invite for you this week:

What can you celebrate this week?


What does that allow you to see, be and do now that you are focused on that…let me know.

Have a wonderful week!

Love and hugs,

Candy

CANDY WRIGHT BURGOYNE, M.A.
Emotional Overeating & Healing Expert
CERTIFIED LIFE-COACH, WEIGHT-LOSS COACH, 
RELATIONSHIP 
Candy Wright Coaching



 p.s. When you’re ready to get help to bridge the gap and create freedom from emotional eating and lose weight for good… 

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How to Stop the Lies Your Brain Tells You About Weight-Loss



I’ve always been the type of gal who likes to do well at things.

I didn’t always have to get an A++, but I’m not going to lie, I did try and I like to work hard, I like to be successful and I have picked up on a lot of things in life sorta quickly, not all, but many.

This is a pattern I’ve noticed about myself…I like to excel and I like to excel quickly.

When something takes me longer than my instinctive brain thinks it should take me to excel, the more survival parts of my brain throw a bit of a tantrum and start to make me feel like, well, that I suck.

Do you notice this in yourself?

You love to do well.

You love to be on your A-game.

You love to succeed quickly?

You do really well in so many areas of your life and when you don’t do well quickly in an area of your life, your brain shames you or isn’t very nice to you?

If so, you just may be human.

Has this happened to you with weight-loss?

You’re successful in so many areas of your life, but you can’t quite seem to lose the extra weight that has crept up especially after 40?

I remember thinking, I’m a smart woman, I do really well in my career, my relationships so why the heck am I so addicted to brownies and why can’t I stop…I should know better!!

But I didn’t know how.

I didn’t have the toolbox to stop overeating and lose weight FOR GOOD.

So my brain kept eating to hide the pain of not knowing how.

And this is really what it is.

We just don’t know how to lose the weight and keep it off.

We just don’t have the toolbox yet.

It’s really normal for people to be really successful in many areas of their lives but just not have the toolbox to understand how to be at your natural healthy weight.

And it’s really normal to keep hiding and not want to really create the toolbox.

It seems like either there’s not enough time, or you doubt you could really do it, or you’ve tried so many things before and your brain wants to keep defaulting to this may not work…

Guess what?

All of this is baloney.

If you think you don’t have enough time to look at your health, your brain is lying to you.

Carrying extra weight feels awful physically and emotionally and it will take it’s toll.

I know we all know this, but sometimes we don’t realize that when we tell ourselves we don’t have the time, we are saying, I don’t have the time to take care of me. I don’t matter.

If your brain is telling you that you don’t think you could do it or it’s not possible, your brain is lying to you.

Don’t listen to it.

It’s baloney…again.

You totally can, your brain is wired to conserve calories and to do the easiest thing possible to maintain status quo…so of course it’s going to default to, thinking you can’t do it. Again. Total baloney.

If your brain tells you that you’ve tried so many things, that nothing will work…

Again, baloney, you just haven’t worked until you found the actual solution and toolbox to get there.

This is the case WITH ANYTHING you really want to change deep down in your heart.

ANYTHING.

These are lies our brain tells us and you don’t have to believe them.

The simple basic tools in this particular toolbox (the lose weight and keep it off toolbox) are:

*Plan your food a day before.
*Reflect the next day on what you ate and how that data matches up with your plan.
*Don’t judge the data, look at it as just data.
*Don’t snack.
*Drink 1/2 your body weight in water.
*Move your body from a place of adding deposits of love into it (not from a place of if I don’t work out an hour at least 3-5 x a week, I’m a failure. Example: Go on a walk 3 x a week for 10 min to start out.
*Don’t eat sugar and flour regularly.
*Get 7-9 hours of sleep.
*Only eat when you’re actually physically hungry.
*Understand what is going on with your brain and your emotions.

That’s the basic tool box.

This is a basic list of what people who are at their natural healthy weight do do be naturally thin, and keep the weight off effortlessly…

I invite you to now listen to what your brain says about that toolbox. 

Whatever complaints, challenges, whining, or arguments your brain wants to come up with about this list just notice them…and that is where your work is.

That is what we work on in coaching.

I help you bridge the gap between the lies your brain tells you and really achieving your dream.

Whatever part of the basic tool box that seems hard, I can help you.

Whatever part of the basic tool box that your brain wants to fight about, let me know, I can help you.

Whatever part of the basic tool box above that your brain is afraid of, I can help you. 

This is my specialty…I got you.

If you are already one of my clients, and your brain is telling you any of these lies, go back to the basic tool box, love your brain with compassion, and keep collecting the data.

One step at a time.

Have a wonderful weekend.

Love, 
Candy

CANDY WRIGHT BURGOYNE, M.A.
Emotional Overeating & Healing Expert
CERTIFIED LIFE-COACH, WEIGHT-LOSS COACH, 
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Resistance is Futile: It will Impede Your Weight-Loss Journey Everytime



TODAY…I want to share with you how I learned to get married and how it directly correlates to the weight-loss process or ANYTHING you really want to change in life.

Yes, I learned to get married…it was alien territory for me.

When I was dating my husband, I actually had some extreme anxiety and much of the time we were dating, although I really cared about him, deep down I was scared to death because I didn’t know how to be in a lifetime marriage partnership. 

I didn’t know how to yet because I’d never done it.

My brain subconsciously thought it should have been easier.

My brain subconsciously thought there should be no struggle to learn to do this.

And even though I had studied relationships extensively from the tons of classes I took, the tons of books I read and my coaching prep,this instinctive resistance was there.

And the only reason was, is because I hadn’t done it before and been successful at it.

I had dated for YEARS, always wanted to be married, and NEVER figured out how.

When we haven’t been successful at something after trying and trying, the semi-conscious, subconscious and sometimes conscious “evidence” builds up for WHY IT WILL NEVER WORK. 

Sound familiar? 

Ever heard yourself say anything like that when it comes to weight-loss or anything else you really want to change?

And ironically, this “evidence”, which is hogwash, (although it feels so dang true) is what keeps us from being successful-in ANYTHING WE ARE TRYING TO CHANGE.

This same process happens in the brain with everything we’ve tried and NOT YET been successful at.

RESISTANCE IS FUTILE


You know what my hubby always told me when I was feeling lots of anxiety as we were dating?

“RESISTANCE IS FUTILE.”

He was trying to be funny and quote Star Trek and the Borgs and he was trying to help me calm down my anxiety.

But he also said this because he had enough confidence and trust in himself to see that that it could totally work out great between us. 

He said it because he understood that my brain was creating resistance, stuck-ness and anxiety by thinking of the ways it couldn’t work.

The difference for him was that he chose to allow himself to see all the reasons it could totally work instead of focusing on any reason it might not.

I, reiterate, I TOTALLY resisted seeing all the reasons it could work or that I was capable of figuring out how it could work.

I WAS RESISTING MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY… 
AND I DIDN’T REALIZE IT.

C’mon…DOES THAT SOUND FAMILIAR?

I was resisting by only focusing on the reasons it probably wouldn’t work…which is what I had done in ALL my previous relationships.


My resistance sounded like this in my head:

I DON’T KNOW HOW THIS COULD WORK

I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO

THIS IS HARD

I DON’T KNOW HOW TO FIGURE THIS OUT

HOW AM I EVER GOING TO JOIN MY LIFE WITH SOMEONE?

I’LL LOSE ALL MY FREEDOM

THE WHOLE THING, HIS LIFE, MY LIFE IS TOO COMPLICATED

And my hubby could see what my mind was doing to me, he could see me resisting and only looking at the negative reasons why it wouldn’t work. 

So when he said RESISTANCE IS FUTILE, he wasn’t trying to convince me to marry him from a creepy controlling space, he was trying to help me process my own thoughts. 

He truly has this gift of wisdom, emotional processing maturity and I SO needed that patience and example. 

God bless him truly.

HOW THIS RELATES TO WEIGHT-LOSS AND 
ANY CHANGE IN LIFE

I hear the same resistance thoughts from my clients who are working to lose weight, working to improve relationships, working to heal past hurts, working to build businesses or working to be amazing in their jobs:

I DON’T KNOW HOW THIS COULD WORK

I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO

THIS IS HARD

I CAN’T

I DON’T KNOW HOW TO FIGURE THIS OUT

HOW AM I EVER GOING TO JOIN MY LIFE WITH SOMEONE?

I’LL LOSE ALL MY FREEDOM

THE WHOLE THING, MY LIFE, THIS PROCESS IS TOO COMPLICATED

When we are stuck in resisting, other wise known as telling ourselves it’s too hard, we can’t do it, we aren’t capable etc…, we DON’T CHANGE, WE CAN’T CHANGE.

THE CONCEPTS THAT FINALLY HELPED ME LEARN TO GET MARRIED AND FULFILL MY HEART’S DREAM
And that will help you truly make a permanent change too…

In the back of my mind, even though I was focusing on all the reasons our relationship wouldn’t work, there were a couple of thoughts that were kind of quiet but were there.

This is what they were:

I have to do something different if I want a different result.

I have to figure out how to do something different this time.

I can’t keep repeating this same pattern any more.

I have to figure this out.

It was these thoughts that kept me in the relationship until my mind was able to finally CHOOSE TO “see” all the A-FREAKING-MAZING reasons why John was the perfect partner for me and why I was the perfect partner for him and why it could totally work.

IT WAS A CHOICE.

I didn’t realize that I was subconsciously choosing not to see all the ways and reasons I could love him and choose him.

I couldn’t see how I was blocking my own progress, my own emotional growth.

I finally figured out to choose to do things differently and say yes over the altar and the strength and crazy amount of freedom I’ve felt since is incredible.

IT’S ALWAYS A CHOICE TO CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS AND FOCUS TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO LEARN TO:

LOVE

LOSE WEIGHT

GET THROUGH A DIFFICULT PROJECT

IMPROVE AND HEAL RELATIONSHIPS  or 

BE SUCCESSFUL IN YOUR BUSINESS

This is what I want to offer you today.
If you are struggling with your weigh-loss process, or your relationships, your work, your business, or your life, you are resisting mentally and emotionally by subconsciously or consciously telling yourself one of the following: 


I DON’T KNOW HOW THIS COULD WORK

I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO

THIS IS HARD

I CAN’T

I DON’T KNOW HOW TO FIGURE THIS OUT

HOW AM I EVER GOING TO JOIN MY LIFE WITH SOMEONE?

I’LL LOSE ALL MY FREEDOM

THE WHOLE THING, MY LIFE, THIS PROCESS IS TOO COMPLICATED

And as long as you stay here, you will not create lasting change. THE END.

SO, if you’d like to really create lasting change, please lovingly tell yourself: 


RESISTANCE IS FUTILE.

TELLING MYSELF IT’S HARD, I CAN’T, I’M NOT CAPABLE ETC…IS FUTILE…

Instead I invite you to take a couple of slow, deep breaths and re-focus your mind to: 

I have to do something different if I want a different result.

I can figure out how to do something different this time.

I can choose to do what it takes no matter what to figure this out.

I can choose to believe I can do this.

Because, my friend, you can.

STOPPING RESISTANCE TRULY is freedom.

My hubby sent me this today after reading this post and I had to add it: 

Merriam Webster:  

Futile:  adjective

 

fu·tile

 

ˈfyü-tᵊl, ˈfyü-ˌtī(-ə)l 

  • 1: serving no useful purpose 
    This very first definition in the dictionary tells us what this really means. Resisting just does not work. 

    It is the same for eating, emotions. Resisting does not work. 


I love you.

Have a wonderful week!

CANDY WRIGHT BURGOYNE, M.A.
Emotional Healing Expert
CERTIFIED LIFE-COACH, WEIGHT-LOSS COACH, RELATIONSHIP & HEALING COACH
Candy Wright Coaching @ CandyWright.com


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I LOVE ME – THE Most Crucial Key to Long-Term Weight-Loss & Long-Term Change



How easy or hard is it for you to truly say – I LOVE ME?

How easy or hard is it for you to truly believe – I LOVE ME?

OK, not me as in Candy, but ME as in YOU.

I want you to really ask yourself that.

What in the world does this have to do with long-term weight-loss & long-term change with anything?

E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G.

It’s EVERYTHING.

It’s the only thing that works long-term for change.

We have to learn to love and trust ourselves.

It may seem like a big feat, but there are a few simple steps.

But let me share a quick story.

Last week, I did a video on self-love.

The irony about that video is that I was starting to see only the first bits of the power of self-love for that week.

I had spent a few weeks, seriously not realizing that I was quietly beating myself up for “not measuring up”. 


I was comparing myself to some other people in my coach-sphere about building my business and my brain kept telling me things like:

“You’re not doing it right.”
“You’re not doing it fast enough.”
“You’re not doing enough.”
“You’re not enough.”

(That gol’ darn compare and despair instinct-we’ll talk more about that later) 

BAM.

Sound like self-love to you?

Nope. Me neither.

The crazy thing was that I couldn’t hear it or see it.

I couldn’t hear how unloving I was being to myself.

I just thought it was the dang truth.

I was listening to those voices and thought, yep, you’re right. Yep, you’re right, and it felt like treading water with cement shoes on.

It felt like struggling & fighting with a tiger in my chest.


CAN YOU RELATE?

Where in your life to you catch these thoughts coming up?

I couldn’t see that those thoughts weren’t true.

The reason I couldn’t see they weren’t true was because…

They were in my mind’s blind spot. Each one of these thoughts created fear and panic and when our brains and bodies are experiencing fear and panic, our brain closes down access to our pre-frontal cortex and we can’t “see” or think clearly or discern or problem solve nearly as well.

We can’t recognize or distinguish or rationally think because the chemical vibration of the fear emotion puts us into fight, flight or freeze and disconnects us from our amazing pre-frontal cortex that is so wise and an amazing problem solver.

An amazing coach friend of mine helped me see this.

She said: “It’s all data. It’s just math.”

When she said it’s all data, my brain flipped on.
 It Re-booted. 
It connected to my pre-frontal cortex again.


I was able to see the personal shaming I was doing and take it out of the equation. 

To my clients: sound familiar?

What if everything I’m doing in my business is just a learning process to collect data.

We do this in our weight-loss process or the relationship process or the parenting process or any new learning process.

I teach my clients to just collect data around food, their thoughts and their feelings.

I teach them to collect the data about what you eat & when & what you are thinking and feeling before and after.

Collect the data about what made your body feel good, what made your body feel not so good after.

Just observe it kindly like you would as if you were observing a tiny baby with so much love.

When I heard the phrase it’s all data, my brain instantly saw that I was making it all personal.

I was caught in my survival fear brain.

If you find yourself buying in to any of the aforementioned compare/despair/mean girl brain thoughts, around your weight-loss process or ANYTHING else in life, I invite you to take a step back and say to yourself:

I’m just collecting data. 
I’m seeing what works and what doesn’t. 
It’s not personal. 
Nothing has gone wrong. 
I choose to love me no matter what.
I choose to be kind to me even when my brain wants to not be.
I choose to love me even when I don’t like what I do.

When we start to practice and believe these thoughts, then our connection to our pre-frontal cortex comes up online again and we can problem solve from love. 

In order to REALLY CHANGE AND REALLY PROBLEM SOLVE…

WE HAVE TO START WITH KINDNESS AND LOVE FOR OURSELVES.

OTHERWISE OUR BRAIN DOESN’T HAVE ACCESS TO IT’S BEST RATIONAL, INSPIRED, CREATIVE THINKING.

THIS MY FRIENDS IS WHY THIS IS THE ONLY KEY TO LONG-TERM CHANGE.

This IS the only key for true, sustained weight-loss, that is a part of who we are and no longer a fight in our brain to happen.

I LOVE YOU.

I LOVE ME.

GO SPREAD THE WORD THAT LOVE REALLY IS THE ANSWER.

Love, 
Candy

CANDY WRIGHT BURGOYNE, M.A.
CERTIFIED LIFE-COACH, WEIGHT-LOSS COACH, RELATIONSHIP & HEALING COACH
Candy Wright Coaching @ CandyWright.com


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Tackle Your Fear Around Weight-Loss & Put On Your Wonder Woman Mask

Hi Beautiful Friends,

How have you been doing this week? I’d love to know. 
Shoot me an email to [email protected] I’d love to hear any victories or struggles you’ve had this week.
I want to share a story about an amazing lady whom I met back in 1992.

She was a mentor to me and when we would go an do something slightly nerve racking while meeting new people, she’d say the most hilarious things to help herself and consequently me get the courage to go to them. (Maybe I’m assuming she needed the courage, maybe it was totally just me!)

When we’d go to meet someone new, she’d say, put on your Wonder Woman mask. She said she liked to put on her imaginary Wonder Woman mask and it helped her laugh, lighten up & gain courage to go do the next new uncomfortable thing.

She described the old plastic Wonder Woman Halloween costume masks with the slightly parted lips and she’d make her lips go into that shape. (I probably should have asked permission to share that part…forgiveness Susi?)

The thing with this lesson she taught me is that this lesson HAS NEVER LEFT ME I LOVE IT. She used humor to help me build confidence and work through fear.
(THANK YOU HERMANA WENDT-seriously!).

I was feeling some fear this last week & I just realized I forgot to put on a my imaginary Wonder Woman mask (tell myself I could do this new thing that my brain was telling me I couldn’t so…I was feeling some fear this week)

So this lack of processing my fear, (forgetting to put on my metaphorical Wonder Woman mask) resulted in me up on the scales a bit.

This often happens when I’m taking on something new in my business.

I notice that I grab a couple of things off my plan, a bit unconsciously.  Do you notice that for yourself by any chance?
I notice it and I don’t make it mean anything about me or my worth or my love-ability.

I look to see where in my life my brain is telling me a story about how I’m afraid of something or how my brain is telling me I can’t handle something.

Because that’s all that’s going on.

My brain is experiencing fear because it’s telling me some version of I can’t do something or it’s too scary…so I have chosen to become someone who learned to just notice it as self-compassionately as I can and look at what I might be worried or nervous about.

I’m an entrepreneur and just like any profession in the world, it comes with growth & new things and new skills to be learned.
It truly is an exciting roller coaster of emotions.
I notice that when I’m about to do the next thing in my business, my brain wants to distract itself by grabbing an extra couple of spoons of peanut butter or by eating after my eating window ends at 8 or by getting lost in TV and sometimes Facebook/Instagram. 
All this means is that I have a human brain, that I have a business and that I’m in the middle of doing something new (learning a new skill) in my business.
My survival brain thinks that because I’m learning something new in my business, it means I need to feel fear and that fear is too big to handle so I should graze a little and spend time on FB or watching TV.
Nothing is wrong with doing any of these things. 
They are just normal ways a human brain can AVOID feeling emotion.

AND BOY DOES OUR AMAZING BRAIN LOVE TO AVOID FEELING FEAR.

GUESS WHAT, THAT JUST MEANS WE’RE DOING SOMETHING NEW AND THAT, YEP, WE’RE HUMAN.
They are just ways the survival brain tries to tell us the lie that we can’t handle fear with courage instead of FB, TV or peanut butter (or brownies, or over working, or drinking etc.)
So what if it’s OK, that I’m learning something new, doing something new in my business and it’s OK that my brain’s instinct is to want to numb and distract myself from the fear.
What if it’s not right or wrong. What if it’s just how it is?
What if we could all learn to do new things (build a business, excel in our new job, lose weight, improve our relationships) with courage, by working through the fear instead of avoiding it?
How magical could that be?
I want to share 2 tips to work with fear…

TWO CRUCIAL TIPS TO WORKING WITH & THROUGH FEAR INSTEAD OF AVOIDING IT 
(WHICH JUST MAKES US STOP WORKING THROUGH IT 
AND SLOWS DOWN OUR LEARNING AND GROWTH) 

TIP 1: UNDERSTAND WHAT THE EMOTION OF FEAR REALLY IS:

Fear is just an emotional chemical vibration that occurs in our body. It occurs as an uncomfortable sensation in our body because our brains are telling us that something could be dangerous, to be on the look-out because we might “die”.

I use the words “uncomfortable sensations” instead of “negative emotions” because negative has negative connotations for most people LOL, right??

So what if we could look fear as an uncomfortable sensation in our body that’s just looking out for danger, it’s trying to keep us alive and most of the time, we aren’t actually in any real danger.

TIP 2: BECAUSE FEAR IS JUST AN UNCOMFORTABLE SENSATION, WE ARE CAPABLE OF LEARNING TO FEEL IT INSTEAD OF RUN FROM IT:

This one can be the more challenging for most people because everything in our instinct screams, “AH, UNCOMFORTABLE SENSATION, FIGHT, FLIGHT, FREEZE, AVOID IT AT ALL COSTS”.

But you know what, being afraid of fear is usually the problem. We are just afraid of feeling fear because we don’t know how to do it.

We haven’t learned to understand that fear is simply an uncomfortable chemical sensation that is caused by a thought we had (usually a default thought like: “This is hard” or “I can’t do this”  or “I haven’t done this before so why do I think I can…eek, I can’t”).

So here’s the craziest, most liberating tip part of this TIP 2: HOW TO PROCESS FEAR:

1. Sit still, breathe in slowly, hold in the breath as you breathe in for 5-7 seconds, then breathe out slowly and just do that 2-4 times.

2. Remind yourself that fear is just a chemical vibration that feels uncomfortable & you are learning to just feel it, it won’t kill you, you won’t die.  (Now, I’m not talking about doing this if you are in a dark alley and someone is approaching you absolutely may want to consider running. I’m talking about when your brain is telling you in your house, your job etc. that you can’t do something.)

3. Remind yourself that nothing’s actually gone wrong, you are just doing something new, or you haven’t learned these skills yet.

4. Then just notice where the fear is in your body. Where does the sensation seem to start? Where does it travel or where does it seem to have landed?

5. Observe it. Notice it. Don’t judge it.

6. Pretend you are looking at it from outside yourself and describe it. You may want to close your eyes for this part: just look at it inside your body. What does it look like, how is it moving.

7. Keep breathing, let the vibration pass through.

Do you need to become a pro at this in 1-3 sittings? Nope, but you’re brain may tell you that you should, so just expect that.

WE CAN ALL LEARN TO UNDERSTAND FEAR, PROCESS FEAR & STRENGTHEN OUR EMOTIONAL PROCESSING MUSCLES.

Have fun taking your brain to the gym & process any fear.

You got this.

You can do this

I love you.

Candy Wright Burgoyne
Certified Life Coach, Emotional Healing Expert
Certified Weight-Loss Coach & Relationship Coach

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Last weekend my brain felt like this fellow in the superman tank. 

It was awesome. Let me tell you about it.

Last weekend I got to go home to Arizona for a special family event.

My nephew personally invited me to participate in his baptism ceremony.

When a sweet, young boy invites me, I go.

That’s not the point of my story though.

This nephew’s mom is my sister and I offered to help her get ready for the event.

PICTURE OF MY AWESOME FAMILY: 



I got the awesome task of taking photos of my nephew, getting prints at Costco made, finding cute frames and editing and converting a PSD (A Photoshop File) small sign with his name on it.

So, I had NO idea how to do this editing and PSD converting thing. WHAT-SO-EVER. 

I knew what Adobe Photoshop was and my basic skills on the computer are pretty good, so I said, I’ll figure it out.

Two hours into working to figure it out, I still hadn’t figured it out. 

Then when I figured out one step, I got stumped on the next step.

My brain instinctively wanted to get a little frustrated.


But I wanted to try an experiment.

I talked back to my brain & the voices in my head that wanted to get frustrated and…

I told my brain: this is awesome.  You can totally figure this out. This is so fun.


I don’t want you to miss this significance of this.

Most people’s brains are instinctively wired to feel overwhelmed, discouraged or frustrated when they can’t figure something out.


Many people’s brains are in habitual neural pathway patterns to default to telling themselves they can’t do something if it seems frustrating.

I saw this ALL. THE. TIME. when I taught school. So many of my students would come up against something challenging and their default would be, I can’t. 

That’s why I taught them that we didn’t say I can’t. We said, how can I keep working at it or trying? 

This is what I teach my coaching clients.

This is what I teach & practice myself.

I, like so many people, have a brain that instinctively wants to default to discouragement. 

So last weekend, I purposefully exercised my mind power to keep telling myself:

I can figure this out. I can figure anything out.  This is fun. How can I make this fun? This is an awesome opportunity to learn.


Something happened when I re-directed my brain to these thoughts. 

I TOTALLY FIGURED IT OUT.

I WAS VICTORIOUS AND THE LITTLE SIGN LOOKED REALLY CUTE.

AND MY BRAIN BLEW UP THE NEXT DAY WHILE I WAS IN MY EXERCISE CLASS.

I could feel something happen in my brain and the only way I can describe it was like a serious epiphany of complete and utter belief and knowledge that I REALLY COULD FIGURE ANYTHING OUT.

It felt like that was actually who I had just become and was: I am a person who can figure anything out. And it feels like that’s who I am today.

I invite you to notice the instinctive voices or default pattern of thoughts your brain tells you about weight-loss or anything you are trying to accomplish for that matter.


I invite you to just notice, are they negative.

Do the patterns sound like…this is hard?  I can’t do this?  I’m never going to succeed? I don’t know how to do it, might as well go back to my old patterns?

If so, this why you haven’t accomplished the thing.

What if you were to start to practice thinking:

What if I can figure this weight-loss thing out?

What if I can figure out this ____________thing out?

What if I can learn how to like eating food that my body really healthily thrives on?

What if I can or what if it’s possible to start to crave that great type of food?

What if I CAN FIGURE ANYTHING OUT?

Just notice what your brain may say to even reading these questions.

Catch any negativity and say, what if it’s possible….

Re-direct your instinctive brain patterns to asking these questions and practice telling yourself: 

I can figure anything out.

What if you could BECOME a person who believes this and it’s part of your neural pathway habit patterns?

This is possible

Because, you are a human and you have so many innate gifts and abilities, and one of these is being able to figure things out. The end.

I love you.

Have a wonderful weekend.

Love, 
Candy

Hugs & loves to you.

CANDY WRIGHT BURGOYNE, M.A.
CERTIFIED LIFE-COACH, WEIGHT-LOSS COACH, RELATIONSHIP & HEALING COACH
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