Everything we do in life is essentially a series of decisions.

We decide what time to get up.

We decide what to do or not do right after we get up.

We decide to go to work.

We decide how to speak to our family and co-workers.

We decide to eat breakfast.

So many of our decisions however, are on auto-pilot.

We made decisions about so many things so long ago and they became habits that we never think to evaluate.

Losing weight after 40 is really about a series of decisions.

I am in a mastermind coach training this week with an AMAZING coach teacher, Stacey Boehman.

Today she shared with us that the faster we can make decisions and implement, the faster we can see if they worked and self-correct.

This applies to our journey with weight-loss too.

We have so many thoughts that are on auto-pilot for us around food that were the result of decisions we made many years ago and sometimes because of decisions others made.

Notwithstanding who made the decisions, the power lies within us to make our decisions today.

When we stay in the decision making processes/decision making habits from the past, we will never change.

We have to learn to break the auto-pilot decision making process.

The challenge for most people when it comes to weight-loss is that when we are making decisions, (the decision to stop snacking, the decision to limit/eliminate sugar and flour), we get stuck in indecision because our brain is so wired to repeat the old decision making processes.

We also get stuck in arguing from a victim-mentality place that sounds a lot like: but, I don’t want to stop eating that or I can’t see myself not eating sugar and flour or my family revolves around food and we just are spontaneous around food…

These are all just excuses of that old auto-pilot part of our brain that wants to keep you unwell and addicted to the decision making habits and foods that do not support your body to be healthy.

I invite you to look at how you make decisions around food.

Are they from an empowered, I’m going to take care of myself and love myself viewpoint?

Or are they coming from an indulgent, whiny, complaining, auto-pilot, emotionally childhood place?

No shame here…just notice. 

We all revert to this whiny, auto-pilot, emotional childhood part of our brain…

But you know what…that part of our brain only keeps us gaining weight and unhealthy.

So how do you make decisions around weight-loss.


YOU JUST DECIDE to figure out how to love you, have your back and figure out how to stop eating the things that don’t serve your body for happiness and true health.

GEEZE, Candy, sure, how can you say, YOU JUST DECIDE???  How do you even do that?

Step 1: Notice kindly the whiny excuses or how you are blaming outside people or things for your decisions around food.

Step 2: Don’t beat yourself up about them, but own them. Say to yourself, “The good news is, that the ability to change really is in my power.” 

Step 3: Then ask yourself, why haven’t you made the decision to really stand up for yourself, have your own back and love yourself to take care of you and your body.

Step 4: Notice any more excuses compassionately.

Step 5: Forgive yourself for them and re-commit to believe it’s possible to figure how to love yourself, stop emotionally overeating, fill your life with other things you’d rather be doing that numbing and distracting yourself with food.

Step 6: Each day: plan your food, stick to your plan, get 7-9 hours of sleep, drink 1/2 your body weight in water, eat only when you are hungry and stop when you are about 80% satisfied. Then reflect at the end of the day how you were victorious with these steps. Take baby steps and celebrate them.

The faster you make the decision to stop eating the things your body doesn’t really need and the faster you take these steps and evaluate how the day went doing it (collecting the data) the faster you will learn and the faster you will lose weight.

My clients who go into victim mentality or argue or complain or whine against these basic steps and want to blame their decisions on something outside them, lose weight more slowly.

Those who make the decision and go all in on themselves, lose a lot more weight a lot more quickly.

Them’s the facts m’am.

If you’d like more help making amazing decisions that will help you get to your goal of losing weight for good, feeling like yourself again and even feeling better than you thought you could, it’s time to set up a time for your free consult call. 


I got you.

Love & Hugs,


Emotional Overeating & Healing Expert

Candy Wright Coaching

 p.s. When you’re ready to get help to make great decisions around taking care of you and your body… 


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