WHAT IF NOTHING’S WRONG WITH YOU??!
THIS TOPIC IS CRUCIAL WHEN IT COMES TO UNDERSTANDING HOW TO WORK WITH OUR BRAINS FOR LASTING CHANGE & TO HEAL THE REASONS WE EMOTIONALLY EAT.
WE MUST START FROM A COMPASSIONATE PLACE IN ORDER TO NOT GO INTO EMOTIONALLY HIJACKING OUR OWN BRAIN & DISCONNECTING IT FROM OUR PRE-FRONTAL CORTEX/THINKING/RATIONAL REASONING PART OF OUR BRAIN…
FIRST STEP: When you notice yourself beating yourself up in your head, shaming yourself, berating yourself or screaming inside your head: ‘WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME’…
BREATHE, AT LEAST 2 TIMES, SLOWLY, HOLDING IT IN FOR A FEW SECONDS AND THEN LET IT OUT SLOWLY.
THEN ASK YOURSELF: WHAT IF THERE’S A GOOD REASON FOR WHY YOU ARE DOING/BEHAVING THIS WAY.
WHAT IF YOU ARE NOT “MISBEHAVING”?
OUR BRAINS USUALLY WANT TO DEFAULT TO THOUGHTS & QUESTIONS LIKE:
“WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?” (THIS IS ONE OF THE MOST POPULAR I HEAR.)
“THERE’S SOMETHING SO WRONG WITH ME!”
“WHY DO I KEEP FAILING?? I HAVE A PATTERN OF FAILING, WHAT IF I CAN NEVER CHANGE?”
“WHY DO I THINK I’LL EVER BE ANY DIFFERENT? I’M ALWAYS GOING TO BE OVERWEIGHT. I’M SO ASHAMED OF MYSELF.”
“WHY DO YOU KEEP EATING A PAN OF BROWNIES, BAG OF CHEESE PUFFS, 1000 CALORIE DRINK? I’M SO PATHETIC/WEAK/SAD/DISGUSTING ETC.”
“HOW COULD YOU EVER THINK ANYONE WILL LOVE ME WHEN I TREAT MYSELF LIKE THIS.”
“NO ONE WILL LOVE ME. I CAN’T EVEN FIGURE OUT HOW TO LOVE ME.”
“WHY DO YOU KEEP DOING THIS?”
“I DON’T LIKE MYSELF” or “I HATE MYSELF”.
“I’M SUCH A ___________” FILL IN THE BLANK WITH THE UNKIND NAMES YOUR BRAIN CALLS YOU.
OUCH THESE ARE BRUTAL!! BUT WE ALL SAY SOME VERSION OF THEM TO OURSELVES AT SOMETIMES.
The first step to starting to approach your weight-loss journey with compassion is understanding that these thoughts just mean you have a normal brain that is looking for danger (this is how the brain sees the danger: AHHHH you’re trying to change my eating old habits, what if we die???)
But you don’t have to listen. You don’t have to talk to yourself like this. Just recognize this is a normal human brain instinct, nothing is wrong with you.
AND YOU CAN QUESTION ALL THESE THOUGHTS & YOU DON’T HAVE TO BELIEVE THEM.
CATCH YOURSELF & STOP IT! STOP TALKING TO MY FRIEND (YOU) LIKE THAT!
BUT HOW YOU MAY ASK?? FIRST STEP: ASK THE
JOIN ME IN THE NEXT BLOG FOR HOW!!
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