CRITICAL QUESTIONS #3 & 4 TO BREAK THE
CYCLE OF EMOTIONAL OVEREATING
In my last post I introduced the concept of starting to figure out the difference between physical hunger & emotional hunger.
I will repeat, we want to eat only when we are physically hungry.
FOR SOOO MANY REASONS. I won’t go in to all of them here, but I will tease you: this is what our bodies were created to do!
And it just works better to work with how our bodies were designed to function.
This post is about what do when you learn you are experiencing emotional hunger & not physical hunger.
CRITICAL QUESTIONS # 3 & 4
WHAT AM I FEELING?
WHAT EMOTION AM I TRYING TO AVOID FEELING BY EATING?
Once you’ve determined that you are not truly physically hungry (your tummy is not grumbling, you don’t feel actual physical waves coming and going), the next question to ask yourself is WHAT AM I FEELING?
Everything we do is motivated by wanting to feel a feeling or wanting to avoid feeling a feeling. SO MUCH OF THIS PROCESS OF WANTING TO FEEL A FEELING OR AVOID A FEELING IS SEMI-OR SUB-CONSCIOUS.
When we ask ourselves the question, what am I feeling, we take a compassionate step back, switch to more of our pre-frontal cortex power to examine our thoughts & feelings.
This is GOOD…we want to compassionately observe.
After you ask yourself, WHAT AM I FEELING?
Then ask yourself: WHAT FEELING AM I TRYING TO AVOID BY EATING THIS THING?
This one MAY take practice for some people TO FIGURE IT OUT BECAUSE…
We’ve stuffed our feelings with food for so many years, that it takes practice to answer this. It’s perfectly OK to struggle with this. It’s also perfectly OK to no struggle with it. Wherever you are at, it’s perfectly OK, just observe it & give yourself grace & compassion.
I recommend stepping away from the food (physically) to ask all these questions of yourself.
Sit quietly, let yourself just search your mind & ask:
WHAT AM I AVOIDING FEELING RIGHT NOW? WHAT DO I REALLY NOT WANT TO FEEL RIGHT NOW?
LOOK AT IT.
OBSERVE IT COMPASSIONATELY.
DON’T JUDGE IT.
THE USUAL INSTINCT THAT ARISES IS TO NOT WANT TO LOOK AT THE FEELING OR EXPERIENCE THE FEELING OR ASK WHY YOU ARE FEELING IT.
THE USUAL INSTINCT IS TO WANT TO RUN FAR AWAY-BECAUSE IT’S UNCOMFORTABLE.
THAT’S OK, STAY WITH IT, KEEP LOOKING & OBSERVING AND ASKING, WHAT AM I FEELING & WHY?
YOU WILL NOT DIE BY LOOKING AT THE FEELING & OBSERVING IT.
JUST FEEL IT.
YOUR BRAIN MAY TELL YOU THAT YOU WILL “DIE” OR IT “WILL HURT TOO MUCH” IF YOU LOOK AT A BIG, INTENSE EMOTION. IT’S NOT TRUE, YOU WON’T DIE.
JUST THANK YOUR BRAIN FOR TRYING TO HELP YOU SURVIVE THEN FEEL IT & LOOK AT IT ANYWAY.
THIS IS SERIOUSLY A BRAIN WORK OUT. THIS IS THE EPITOME OF TAKING YOUR BRAIN TO THE GYM.
These 4 questions in these last 3 posts can make all the difference in starting your journey to create freedom from emotional eating & create the self-love you’d love to create.
1: AM I TRULY PHYSICALLY HUNGRY?
2: WHAT DOES TRUE PHYSICAL HUNGER FEEL LIKE FOR ME?
3: WHAT AM I FEELING?
4: WHAT EMOTION AM I AVOIDING FEELING BY EATING (& YOU CAN ALWAYS ASK WHY AGAIN).
I LOVE YOU FRIENDS!
THIS IS WHAT I TEACH IN MY PROGRAM:
FREE YOUR JOY! STOP EMOTIONAL OVER EATING
ARE YOU COMING??!
To GET STARTED: I do an free initial coaching session in which I coach you & we find out if we are a good fit for one another. No obligation, I will provide you with crazy, amazing value on just this first free call. No matter what.
Let’s get started!!
CLICK HERE TO REGISTER FOR YOUR FREE ONLINE COACHING SESSION.
WARMTH, HUGS & LOVES TO YOU!
CANDY WRIGHT BURGOYNE, M.A.
CERTIFIED LIFE-COACH, WEIGHT-LOSS COACH, RELATIONSHIP & HEALING COACH
FREE YOUR JOY! COACHING